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Andover, MA - Maximillian "Max" Durham, born October 27, 1999, passed away at home on Saturday, December 7. Max fought a courageous battle with mental health difficulties and addiction. He was 20.
Max's passions were many. He was an avid hiker and skier, skiing with his brother and father in the White Mountains, out west, and France. Max skateboarded, bicycled and baked Christmas cookies. Recently, he had discovered painting. He loved to surf at York beach. Max adored his brother, bro, to no end. He nurtured and loved his border collie Sky.
Max is survived by his parents, Mary and Andrew Durham and his brother Alexander; grandparents, Susan and Chris Durham; Aunts Debbie, Kelly, Patty Elena, Andrea and Peggy and Uncles Keith, Badri, Ski and Chris along with several cousins. He also leaves behind his spiritual grandmother and grandfather, Eileen Manning and Stanley Zajechowski.
Max had his heart set on attending Champlain College in the spring.
With Love Respect and Honor, until we meet again.
A Celebration of Life is planned at a later date. In Lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Appalachian Mountain Club 10 City Square Boston, MA 02129 or
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Published on December 12, 2019


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Marie-Denise Kareklas
Jan 27, 2020
My dear, most caring family, the Durham, my heart is broken for our loss .... Your children were a true example of love, caring and respect... I can’t believe what I’m reading and I want you to know that Panos, Andoni, Scott and I loved you all from all our hearts ... no words can express how we are feeling about this... we love you and we hope that Max most beautiful memories and the love of his friends comfort you.... so so so sorry for your loss ❤️ 🙏The Kareklas family
Jan 21, 2020
Thank you so much to the Durham family for being so kind and welcoming me, I will never forget Max, he is so loved.
Chris Durham
Jan 20, 2020
Max loved a good fillet ( prime only) corn on the Cobb and chocolate
Chris Durham
Jan 20, 2020
I think about this wonderful grandson every day. My wife and I are hoping to contribute something significant to the Appalachian Mountain Club. Max loved climbing mountains
Uncle Kip
Jan 18, 2020
Dear Max,
Our spirits will always be with you on Mt Washington.
Uncle Kip
Jan 17, 2020
You are missed, Max. I am grateful for your light and laughter and the times we were able to spend together. Childhood was magical with you. Sending love, warmth, and support.
Neil Lynch
Jan 16, 2020
Mary and family - I am so sorry for your loss. I'm keeping you all in my prayers.
JANE Thiefels
Jan 15, 2020
Dear Mary,
As a retired, fellow ESL teacher, my heart goes out to you and your husband at the loss of your dear son, Max.
I can tell he was a wonderful young man.
I send you my warmest wishes at this very difficult time.
Dr Lois Lombardo & Staff
Jan 15, 2020
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Patti Dalimonte
Dec 31, 2019
My heart hurts for you Mary. I will always treasure the times that Jacob Max Alex and Thomas went to the park when they were small. Only the ones with the biggest hearts Go to heaven so young!
Mary El Raheb Dec 28 2019
Dec 29, 2019
I am so sorry for your loss although I am a mother who lost a son too ,I have no words to easy your pain ,but I can tell you I know what you are getting through. My thoughts are with both of you . I remember Max younger at Elena’s home a lovely boy that time .